7 Ways To Control Your Anger
7 Ways To Control Your Anger
There are certain people and things that just make you feel @%#*&?$#’$#*!? But how do you deal with them? Here are 3 ways to control your anger:
1. Think Before You Speak
Always take a moment to think before you speak or do something. Think about your tone of voice and the way you are about to say something.
Saying one thing in a calm way is enough to make everyone else calm again too.
Proverbs 15:1 says:
‘A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.’
If you are slow to speak (think before you speak) you will prevent a lot of wrath coming your way!
2. Be Alone
Let out your anger when you’re alone. Simply spending more time alone makes you less angry.
If you’re boiling with anger, don’t let it out on someone. You may have a deep hate for them now, but you won’t in a few hours. Don’t do something you’ll regret.
Let out your anger through physical exercise or something else you enjoy!
Proverbs 29:11 says:
‘Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.’
Don’t be like a fool! Don’t unleash your anger on people! Feel the anger, but don’t do anything.
3. Get to the Root of the Problem
Do you feel like you are always angry at something? The root of the problem is often due to past experiences.
Unfair treatment, growing up in an angry family, abuse, and jealousy can be common roots of anger. If you have had a stressful, angry upbringing you need to get to the root of the problem.
Go to God, ask Him to forgive all the sins you committed in your anger. But then ask Him to heal your HEART! This step is CRUCIAL!
‘For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness.’
Whatever is in your heart, will control your life.
Angry heart = angry life. Loving heart = loving life.
You MUST ask God to fix the problem because He is the only one who can cause lasting change.
Unless God fixes the root cause of anger (your Heart), you will always have angry days ahead. You will never be able to control your anger.
Ask Him! That’s all it takes! No test. No struggle. No nothing.
Just a simple prayer…
4. Watch Comedy
Watch stuff that makes you laugh!
Humor can give you power over your anger, heal wounds, and give you more joy. It lightens the mood and can take the pressure of almost any situation.
If you spend an hour watching or doing something you find funny, that’s an hour less time spent being angry.
Humor also does incredible things to your brain. It releases the chemical serotonin which improves focus, decision making and problem-solving.
Basically makes your brain function NORMALLY again!
5. Fix the Problem
Write down what you’re angry about on a piece of paper.
Instead of burning with anger, write. Because it will calm you down. You’re expressing your frustrations onto paper.
You’re letting it all OUT!
Then try and work out a possible solution to the problem. Write down a list of things you can do NOW so you’ll never face this situation again IN THE FUTURE.
What could you ask someone to do differently? Could you make a compromise?
For a lot of cases, this is the breakthrough! Working out the cause of your anger.
Then take time to focus on fixing the situation and talk to someone about it.
The situation won’t fix itself.
6. Don’t Take Things Personally
When someone lashes out at you or makes you angry, don’t take it personally.
They are not disagreeing with who you are or attacking your personality! 99% of the time, they have the problem. They are at war with themselves.
We take other people’s problems personally and let them affect us. But it’s never about us. We’re fine, they are the problem.
So do yourself a favor and don’t get angry when someone else expresses their frustrations on you.
7. It’s OK to get Angry
It’s ok to be angry. Jesus got angry at many things. But He expressed righteous anger towards pride, greed, and hypocrites.
He never sinned in His anger.
That’s the key! Learning how to control your anger.
Ephesians 4:26 says:
‘“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,’
If someone mistreats you for their own personal gain, YES you should get angry! BUT don’t bring out your anger on them.
God will decide their fate when they die because He is the perfect judge.
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